Then, just as we had almost forgotten the beautiful child we once knew, there is the soft, gentle voice of the 17 year old calling his sick grandpa that we happen to overhear, or the 24 year old who finally seems to be willing to go to detox and stay sober after years of homelessness and drug abuse. The tears flow as we experience such relief and gratitude that our teenagers and young adults have harbored deep inside the love we gave to them.
What we can remember is that love is never lost, no matter how it seems. That all the effort we have given and continue to give is felt and experienced, even if it doesn't appear so in the moment or even for many years. We can choose to give thanks for the blessings and the gifts and all the lessons of parenting: even parenting our teens-for truly the unconditional part of unconditional love is no more needed than in these years-for ourselves as well as for them.
With All Love,